This year, all four of my children are in school,
albeit not all full-time (my youngest is in a three-day preschool
program). Whenever this comes up in conversation, the enviable response is,
“What will you do with all of your free time?”
Ah, free time—that mythical land to which every mother longs
to go. As someone who currently works part-time from home, I rarely had free time before this school year began. My life really hasn't changed much since the children are in school, although I do get errands done a bit quicker.
I think the bigger question is what does this say about the
current view of mothering. My mother stayed at home, but her time wasn’t
consumed by doing for—or entertaining—me. Sure, household chores ate up some
time, but once we were older than three, time spent in childcare dropped
considerably for women of my mother’s generation.
That kind of mothering has fallen out of favor, and with it
the rise of no time, free or otherwise. I am grateful for my mother’s example,
for it gives me the fortitude to follow in her footsteps. Direct care of my
children has lessened as they age; correspondingly, time I spend taking care of
the household has also dropped as the children have picked up more of the
cleaning chores.
In turn, that has allowed me to pick up some of the things
that I put on hold when the children first arrived: reading, writing, knitting
and sewing, for example.
I’m enjoying a quieter house, and I have plenty with which to fill my suddenly “free time” since my time has
always been mine to fill. I’ll take the 24 hours given to us each day and try
to use it wisely, like I've always done.
Until next time,
Sarah
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